A lot of teachers out there teach a concept called ’’hard work’’. They say that you have to ’’struggle’’ for many years and that only after these years of struggle and hard work you will be successful.
Personally I disagree.
You don’t have to be struggling. In fact, when you are struggling I believe that you are not on purpose and that you are not doing what you are supposed to do in this world.
When you are inspired, you do what you love and provide a meaningful service, there is no struggle. Struggle is a mindset that is unnecessary to become successful. When you are struggling you are going against the stream, you feel tired, unfulfilled and the chances you become successful are slim to none.
Look at the definition of struggle, here are some of them
- To engage in conflict
- To make one’s way with difficulty
- Strive to achieve something in the face of difficulty or resistance
- Take forceful or violent efforts to get free of restraint.
Does that sounds inspiring to you to achieve your goals? Hell no!
So when I see people struggle to achieve their goals, I know that sooner or later they will give up. Because to struggle is unsustainable and doesn’t give you the juice and the energy to keep going. When you struggle and actually achieve your goal, you link a lot of negativity and struggle to achieving something, which stops you from taking action for your next project.
So what can you do instead?
- First of all, you need to have a crystal clear picture of what it is you want to achieve. (What do you want?)
- Secondly, you need to have juicy reasons why achieving this goals is an absolute must (and not a should) for you to achieve (Why do you want it?)
- Thirdly, realize that there are many ways to achieve your goals. For example, if you want to lose weight you can struggle (starve yourself to death, push yourself to work out 3 hours a day or go on a detox). Or you can choose actions without struggle, such as following a delicious vegan diet and doing your favorite sport for 3 evenings a week. Can you feel the difference? (How are you going to do it?)
However, at certain times everyone has to do activities that are less inspiring. I recommend you still chose to enjoy these actions and see them as on the way instead of in the way so you can thrive. When you have to take out the trash, you can put on a smile, do it quickly and finish it. To struggle is an unnecessary choice.
I hope that this article inspires you to quit struggling and to start to thrive. If you like it, please share it using the buttons below.
Now I would love to hear from you! What is something that you use to struggle with and now have chosen to thrive when doing it? Leave your comments in the section below.
Love and wisdom,
Bart
